It’s vital to remember that our emotional control shouldn’t come at the expense of our general communication in relationships (Matthew 12:34). For example, imagine a husband and wife in a conversation about dinner plans. The wife suggests trying out a new restaurant. Still, the husband, who harbors a strong distaste for the cuisine, nods and maintains a stoic facade to avoid conflict (James 3:2). 

On the surface, the scenario depicted in the above example may help maintain a temporary sense of peace. However, his bottled-up feelings could eventually erupt like a dormant volcano, surprising both parties with the intensity of his unexpected frustration (Jeremiah 17:9).

The alternative is to express oneself with care, tact, and consideration to our family and friends. The Bible makes it clear that these dispositions are all components of a healthy approach. We cannot afford to shut down with the people we hold close; our goal should be to prioritize quality time and connection in our relationships to ensure they remain strong.

Our aim then becomes to successfully process our emotions while communicating in a way that is authentic to each situation. For instance, it’s better to have a few moments of discomfort in a marriage that operates within the reasonable framework of love and respect rather than sweep those situations under the rug (Ephesians 4:15-16). 

These moments of friction are minimized when one person takes the approach of expressing a specific need. They might say, “I need some time to unwind after work before we discuss plans,” or use a time-out signal during a heated discussion to prevent escalation. By implementing these behaviors, couples can more effectively manage disagreements and cultivate healthier communication in their relationships.

If we avoid expressing the full extent of our qualms to our partner to appease them, we may inadvertently set ourselves up for future conflict. What could have been a few minor skirmishes resolving key areas of contention can, when left unchecked, become an unnecessary and excessive burden. By recognizing this cycle, couples can take early action to communicate openly and empathetically, breaking the pattern before it becomes overly problematic.

Emotional consistency and composure in our relationships with friends and colleagues is also meaningful. It’s not that we want to hide things like who we are or what we feel. The issue is that when we shut down, we may expect people to read our minds or put up with our unreasonable behavior. Not letting our feelings dictate what we say and do allows us to think before we speak (Ephesians 4:29). We hold our tongues just long enough not to hurt someone’s feelings and instead deliver the same message with more care (James 1:19).

Have you ever spoken anything you’d like to rephrase? When was the last time you could have shared something with more tact and sensitivity? It’s often our closest loved ones that we have the least care for with our words. We grow so accustomed to their unconditional love and their willingness to forgive. Instead of taking them for granted, our desire should include a deliberate intention to communicate with abundant love and respect towards them.

We can consider this quick self-assessment to develop daily awareness of our interactions with loved ones:

– When I speak to loved ones, do I listen actively and without interrupting?

– Do I express my thoughts with kindness and patience?

– Have I acknowledged their feelings and shown empathy?

– Am I seeking to resolve conflicts rather than winning an argument?

Use these questions as a guide to ensure that your communications are both respectful and genuine.

The next time you catch yourself in a verbal joust with your spouse, parent, child, or sibling, try to remind yourself to exercise this type of care (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). Imagine a home where each moment is filled with grace and love for everyone. Picture interactions that breathe life and healing into the family unit (Proverbs 18:21). Envision kindness overflowing (Isaiah 54:7-8) and understanding reigning supreme in you and your most cherished loved ones (Ephesians 4:32).

After all, what sense does it make to treat strangers with greater consideration than those closest to us? The ideal is to operate with grace and love for everyone. Knowing that God calls us to love even our enemies, how is it that we don’t extend this to our closest family and friends (Matthew 5:44)?

I want to invite you to shoot for consistent love with those God has positioned around you (Matthew 22:36-40). Just because you have experienced their forgiveness and grace before doesn’t mean complacency is permissible (Romans 5:20-21, Romans 6:15). The way we esteem ourselves should inspire us to mirror that same consideration towards others (Romans 12:3, Philippians 2:3). God extends His love, forgiveness, mercy, and grace to us in abundance (Hebrews 4:16). That should, likewise, motivate us to take the same course of action with others. 

Next time you feel tempted to lash out at someone, take a step back. Instead of taking what they’re saying at face value, ask yourself why they think the way they do. Better yet, pray and seek God’s counsel on the matter. You may soon realize that their position is not as outlandish as it seems.

God even provides us with the tools to operate with restraint. The Fruit of the Spirit includes love, self-control, long-suffering, gentleness, kindness, goodness, joy, and peace (Galatians 5:22-23). All of these provide us with the fuel needed to exercise the emotional restraint that benefits everyone around us. 

For example, if we have self-control, we are equipped to respond to someone’s wrath with a soft answer and diffuse a situation (Proverbs 15:1). If we respond in kind, we would instead add fuel to the fire, which does neither them nor us any favors.

A marriage exemplifies both sides of the coin. The goal is complete honesty and sincerity, while also embracing the tension that sometimes comes along with the territory (Proverbs 27:17). Your spouse is an extension of you; in other words, you are one flesh (Mark 10:8). If you do them good, you are making a positive investment in your world too.

A good partner will mirror this behavior towards you as well, and you will feel compelled to keep this positive cycle going with one another for life. Create this dynamic, and observe how the fruit of your choices manifests itself in your relationship.

Exercising restraint with your tongues and ensuring your emotions don’t cloud your decision-making improve you as a unit (James 3:6). Their win is your win. Your win is their win (Ephesians 5:25-33). Meanwhile, if you fight to argue rather than to explore solutions, or if you fail to help each other cope effectively, you impede yourselves.

To translate this principle into daily life, consider implementing a small ritual that emphasizes the “their win is your win” perspective. A simple nightly check-in can serve this purpose, allowing both partners to share small victories, express gratitude, and offer support. This routine develops a tangible sense of unity and reciprocity, making it easier to maintain harmony in the relationship (Psalm 133:1).

Don’t let any of these goals and aspirations discourage you if you have a lot of work to do. I know that I definitely do. All of us have room for improvement, along with our unique strengths and weaknesses. Contemplate areas of growth within your grasp and begin with them. God willing, with time, you will find the strength to emulate Jesus Christ more fully in your emotional discipline (2 Corinthians 5:20, Proverbs 21:23).

Today’s episode is a special guest interview featuring my friend Emanuel Chiquini. It’s also the first to include video, in case you’re interested in watching.

Have you ever wondered why God allows suffering? Do you contemplate questions such as:

“If God is with us, why do we need to experience suffering?”

“If God is lloving why do horrible things happen all around the world?”

“Is God really in control?”

“How do we know God is good and working on our behalf if we can’t see anything good going on during times of distress?”

Please listen to today’s conversation as we tackle questions like these and other related subtopics. I believe today’s conversation has the potential to encourage, inspire, challenge, and motivate you to trust, serve, and obey God.

Thanks for stopping by the podcast. Thanks in advance for your comments, reviews, and feedback, which are greatly appreciated. God bless!

– What characterizes holiness in the sight of God?

– How can we remain steadfast in the face of adversity?

– What practical ways can we execute God’s commands in our lives?

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One outstanding way that instant gratification has ramped up in recent years is with the advent and progression of social media. Most of us agree that social media has its perks, but it’s not all unicorns and rainbows. The creators of these applications have designed them to engage the user base in a way that goes beyond briefly engaging the user. The goal is often simple. Those who have worked on these applications have openly shared their intentions to captivate our attention and keep us on the applications for as long as possible.

There is an addictive component to seeing likes, comments, and shares roll in from our family, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. For most of us, the crowd consists primarily of people many don’t know well. We have become addicted to digesting bite-sized content and exchanging memes with people we often only know superficially! Meanwhile, we find ourselves gravitating to our phones when we’re around some of the people we love the most. It takes deliberate effort to silence our phones and give our loved ones the gift of our attention. When we fail to do this, we are falling for the trap.

Don’t get me wrong. These applications have also empowered many with a platform to share their message with people who wouldn’t have otherwise heard them. It has opened the door to conversations and debate in the public square where those who may not have had a say now have one. It has even allowed us to share the Gospel and conveniently connect with family and friends when we cannot reach out in person. The impact is not all negative, but we often glaze over some detrimental impacts without much thought. Many of our younger generations need more face-to-face interaction to develop communication skills. Online communication and texting have replaced a significant amount of in-person connections. The infrequency of this situation may cause them to struggle due to a lack of in-person connection with their peers. Instead, they live with their heads tucked downwards, focusing on the online side of their world.

Another area of concern, also revolving around applications and social media, applies to many of us. We switch between bite-sized pieces of content across various topics in brief reels, shorts, and clips. It’s become quite rampant, and as a result, our attention span has suffered. Suppose we get caught up in a treadmill of digesting these little nuggets of information back to back without any real connectivity between topics. In that case, it’s no wonder we may find it challenging to focus on things like reading a book or remaining attentive in conversation.

These developments aren’t limited to social media. The ease of access to anything from fast food to online streaming platforms for entertainment puts everything at our fingertips. These comforts and pleasures can deter us from meaningful pursuits when we allow them to run rampant. Most things worth pursuing in life involve a lot of effort over an extended period. It takes a certain level of sacrifice, risk, and delayed gratification to make our greatest dreams a reality. Suppose we get accustomed to the easy way to stimulate our brains and get immediate gratification. In that case, making meaningful sacrifices toward the future rewards God has in store for us becomes more arduous.

We will find more long-term fulfillment in investing for the future than maximizing our comfort now (Ecclesiastes 1:14). For example, every good relationship takes work. We need to figure out how our partners give and receive love, and we need to figure out their communication styles in instances where we may not understand them. We must aim to understand their behavior patterns and exercise the patience to consider their perspective (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). As people, we all grow and develop, so there must be grace to extend to one another as we mature. Who are we not to extend the love, grace, and patience that God has given us (John 3:16)? Sometimes, on the most challenging days, we must choose love. A loving relationship carries sacrifices and risks, but we can say the same thing about almost everything worth doing. If we keep at it together, it’s only a matter of time before you see the fruit of your efforts.

The Christian life is all about sacrifice, risk, and delayed gratification. We sacrifice by taking up our cross daily and serving God (Luke 9:23). Some of us risk our comfort, jobs, and lives in obedience to God’s call (Philippians 2:30). When we obey God in this life, we practice a form of delayed gratification (Matthew 16:25-27). Instead of living for this world’s fleeting pleasures, we seek to store treasure in heaven (Matthew 16:25-27). Rather than indulging the desires of the flesh, lust of the eyes, or the pride of life, we walk in the victory that Jesus Christ gave us over sin and death (1 John 2:16, 1 Corinthians 15:55-56). We prioritize obeying God even when it costs us something because He first loved us, and now we love Him (1 John 4:19, John 14:15).

Does this all mean we must walk in perfection? No. Only Jesus Christ did that. However, it does mean God has called us to serve in a way that transcends this world’s distractions. When we live for the moment, we may enjoy much pleasure. If we sacrifice solely for the luxuries and amenities in this world, we may also achieve those. But the most extraordinary form of sacrifice, risk, and delayed gratification is to live for God by emulating His Son, Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1). He calls us to put Him first and make sure this world and everything in it comes secondary to us (1 John 2:17).

Anything we do that involves sacrificing something in this world for the sake of God and His glory will echo into eternity (Romans 8:18). We will never regret prioritizing God by utilizing our gifts, talents, resources, and energy to execute His will. We can only fill the missing puzzle pieces in our hearts through fellowship with Jesus Christ (Ephesians 3:17-19). God has designed us to bring Him glory by being ambassadors for His Son, Jesus Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20). Don’t forget your identity in God, and remember that everything you do for Him is eternally meaningful (2 Corinthians 5:17).

May God’s love for you overflow as you serve Him by loving those around you. When we are friends of God and genuinely desire to live for Him, it will not be too hard to make the sacrifices and delays in gratification warranted to glorify Him (James 2:23, John 15:15). Before you know it, you’ll reflect Jesus Christ in more and more aspects of your life as you mature in faith. We all need to surrender our idols and work on ensuring this world’s distractions don’t steal our hearts away from our true purpose (Ezekiel 36:25). Praise God for His help in empowering us to do so!

Other times, we will seek confirmation about vital life choices. We might want to know if it’s time to take the next step in a relationship, a career choice, or another critical juncture (1 Peter 1:13). But sometimes, the only way to determine whether things will work out is to keep moving forward one action at a time (James 1:22). It is better to take incremental steps toward a greater goal than to rush into something prematurely and unprepared (Proverbs 16:9).

Are you unsure if God is giving you the green light to get married? Keep dating and pray for clarity. Do you need help to decide whether to transition from your current job to another employer? Keep working and pray for God to open and close doors that pertain to employment as He sees fit (Proverbs 3:5-6). Is it plausible that God wants to teach you something where you are right now and wants you to be patient (Romans 8:24-25)? Pray for wisdom to determine if you’re missing out on a lesson or if it’s time to make a more substantial adjustment (James 1:5-8). So, ultimately, we aim to balance aligning our desires with God’s timing and continue preparing for the future (Ecclesiastes 3:17).

“Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” – Corrie ten Boom

Look back a year, several years, or even a decade. Hasn’t God always been faithful to help you overcome every obstacle? He has a perfect track record (Romans 5:5). Why would you start doubting Him now? When you look back, do you see that there’s been significant progress in your life? Sometimes, it may be a slow progression from our perspective, but in God’s eyes, it’s the perfect timeline. We don’t have to measure our success based on the speed at which others operate. There will be people who may appear to have an advantage over us in several areas of life, but often, they may even feel the same way about us. Even if we counted all of it as a loss, it would be worth it if it were necessary to gain Jesus Christ in return (Philippians 3:8).

In any case, we don’t know what they sacrificed to get where they are. So, instead of staring at greener grass on their side of the fence, we should applaud the success of our peers and keep an eye on our lawn care instead. Their blessings don’t interfere with God’s timing for our blessings (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8). The mistake lies in spending too much time and effort focusing on their gains rather than our victory in Jesus Christ (Psalm 118:14).

Instead of spending excessive time on social media or daydreaming about those around us, we should be investing in God’s will for us. We should concentrate on the things above and navigate life with an eternal mindset (Colossians 3:2). There’s no superior way to conduct our lives than doing everything for God’s glory and our ultimate good. If we love God and He calls us according to His purpose, we know that God guarantees this outcome for eternity (Romans 8:28). Does that always pan out how we want to in this life? No, but that’s where our faith comes in. A faith that in and of itself is a gift from God to us (Ephesians 2:8-9). 

We cannot find fulfillment in the things of this world (1 John 2:17). Only in God and a relationship with His Son, Jesus Christ, can we find our anchor of hope (Hebrews 6:19-20). He is the sole source able to complete the gigantic, missing puzzle piece in our hearts (Psalm 107:9). Without Him, we have nothing and cannot produce anything of eternal value (John 15:5). With Him, we have everything, including the blessing of sharing eternity in heaven with Him forever (1 John 2:24-25)! If we try to find personal satisfaction in the limited things here on earth, we will always come up short (Ecclesiastes 1:14). 

Nothing can appease us in the long term without God being at the center (Psalm 16:11). Apart from God, people feed the insatiable appetites of their flesh, and unmet expectations abound. A man or woman of God knows they cannot find lasting joy, satisfaction, contentment, or blessings in this world apart from God (1 John 2:16). We cannot even discover it in the good things when we idolize them over God who provides every good and perfect gift in its time (James 1:17). Sometimes, God may not offer specific opportunities until we’re ready to handle them and steward them graciously. Otherwise, we may get lost in the blessing and lose sight of the bigger picture found in His plan (2 Peter 3:9).

We must be open to the idea that since God gives us everything, He also has the authority to take away anything at any time He pleases (Psalm 24:1; Job 1:21). However, we know His character is unchanging, and His promises are irrevocable (Hebrews 13:8). For instance, God is not taking away that eternal gift of fellowship He gave you through His Son, Jesus Christ (John 3:16; Romans 6:23). You don’t have to worry about losing your salvation if you have found it in Jesus Christ (Romans 5:1). But it would be tragic if that promise led you to backslide or compromise your faith at every turn (Romans 6:1-2). Instead, it should inspire us to do good works that glorify Him (Ephesians 2:10). We must cling tightly to God’s promises and understand that some are conditioned based on our obedience. We must also distinguish between principles and promises to avoid confusion, but that is beyond the scope of today’s article.

May God equip all of us to seek Him above all else. May we walk in the victory Jesus Christ already won. Jesus Christ is our forerunner in the faith. He fully understands the gravity of what we go through regarding every aspect of humanity, including our trials and temptations (Hebrews 6:19-20). He alone can empathize with us on the deepest level and comfort us in times of need. The One who bottles our tears and counts the hairs on our heads will not abandon or forsake us (Psalm 56:8-11; Luke 12:7; Hebrews 13:5). He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. May we bring God glory in all our endeavors and submit to His will by aligning our desires with His (1 Corinthians 10:31).

Living a fulfilling and fruitful life as a believer involves discovering your purpose. We must all determine our God-given assignment to determine what He would have us invest our focus. Without this sense of direction, our lives can become aimless. It becomes easy to fall into the snare of potential distractions, instant gratification, or the pursuit of temporary idols without a clearly defined mission (Romans 1:22-25). Our faith in God and relentless pursuit of His will provide the antidote for those traps. Seeking God’s desires keeps us focused on the meaningful things in life and helps us avoid turmoil (2 Timothy 2:22).

Find God’s purpose amid an ocean of distractions.

Some things can benefit us when we don’t over-emphasize them (1 Corinthians 10:23-24). For example, excelling in a career, pursuing quality relationships, or finding some satisfaction in achievements all have their place in a well-rounded life (Ecclesiastes 3:11-13). The problem comes when one or more of these pursuits detract from our relationship with God. These are among the most common places where we find some aspect of our purpose. That’s why we must be careful not to allow the good things in life to become idols. We cannot overemphasize them to the point of neglecting God.

There are times when overlap exists between a career and a Godly directive, but for many Christians, these are two distinct pathways. We may honor God with how we excel at work, love our significant other, or honor Him with our achievements. However, when such pursuits align with our purpose in the Kingdom of God, we will experience unparalleled satisfaction. It is essential to align our goals with God’s will by spending time with Him to discern where to invest our time, energy, and resources (John 15:5).

Differentiate between worldly pursuits and Godly ambitions.

It is easy to distinguish between modern distractions and finding your meaning in obedience to God’s will. If an activity or ambition leaves you feeling empty or dissatisfied on some level, you are likely not actively pursuing your calling (Romans 12:1-2). The reality is that most of us if not all, need to cope with many things we prefer not to do on any given day. There are times when you will also have to find motivation and strength from God to walk out the calling He lovingly placed upon your life. But, even after all the diligent work, if you feel a sense of peace, joy, and satisfaction for having done it, you are on the right track. For clarity, you might ask yourself questions such as:

• “Is this something that honors, glorifies, and acknowledges God?”
• “If money was no object, would I be willing to do this for free?”
• “Do I see positive results for God’s kingdom?”
• “Am I investing in my immediate gratification or in eternity?”
• “Am I making a difference in other people’s lives?”
• “Has a fellow believer pointed out that this might be an area of gifting in my life?”
• “Does what I do for God come a bit easier to me than it might for other believers who may themselves be gifted in other areas?” 

As you reflect on these questions and, most importantly, pray about what God would have you do, do not feel discouraged if you are unsure what your niche is. I find myself enjoying writing and teaching about the Bible. I take this calling in my life seriously, knowing that as a teacher of God’s Word, I am subject to a high standard of judgment (James 3:1). Accuracy in those works is among my utmost priorities because I want to teach people without compromise. I aspire for my work to be as error-free as possible. Remember that whatever we do unto the glory of God, we should pursue with our best effort (1 Corinthians 10:31).

What is the connection between our faith and purpose?

It takes faith to invest substantial time in God’s assignment for you (Matthew 17:20). In doing God’s work, you rarely receive positive feedback, earn significant sums of money, or enjoy the world’s applause (John 15:18-21). But you will still answer the calling God has placed in your heart because it will be one of the few ways to find fulfillment and joy in serving God (2 Thessalonians 1:11-12). It becomes easier when we realize that living for eternity is superior to everything this world offers (Matthew 6:19-21).

There is also a sense of connectivity and identity found in serving God that we don’t experience when we are solely seeking our best interests. When we participate in something larger than ourselves, looking outside ourselves rather than reflecting on our needs, we recognize that our concerns shrink rapidly (Philippians 2:3-5). We can’t always avoid difficult times, but helping others often brings peace. Looking outside our needs and helping others with their needs shifts our perspective from selfish desires to gratitude and contentment (Acts 20:35; 1 Timothy 6:6-10). 

Seeing that we are not alone in our desire to serve God and His people is a blessing. Sharing the common ground of mutual desires to utilize our gifts, talents, resources, time, and energy to glorify God alongside our faithful friends provides us extra motivation to keep fighting the good fight of faith (2 Timothy 4:5-8). Our Church often motivates us to pursue God’s work in righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, and gentleness (1 Timothy 6:11-12; Galatians 5:22-23). We can often accomplish this independently, too. Still, we must always return to God, His Word, and our Christian friends to nourish us with the spiritual sustenance we desperately need to persevere (Philippians 4:6-7).

Faith in God’s Word is our moral compass.

Knowing God’s Word and utilizing it to guide our actions should go hand-in-hand. Faith is the fuel that takes us from knowledge to wisdom (James 1:5-6). When we believe God’s Word, we are compelled to be proactive in light of what we know to be true. When we know, believe, and apply God’s Word, we prioritize God’s will over our own. We will follow God’s commands, leading us to better decisions on our journey with Him (John 15:14-16). If glorifying God is our ultimate purpose, it should be intuitive that His Word is the blueprint for that intention to flourish (1 Corinthians 6:20). 

The more our faith aligns with God’s Word, the more frequently we will see it manifest itself in our actions. None of us will ever regret placing our faith in our Maker. He is sovereign over everything (Colossians 1:16-17), loves us more than we can fathom (1 John 4:7-10), does not change (Malachi 3:6), and has our best interests at heart for eternity (Romans 8:28). May we all find solace and contentment in confidently pursuing our purpose, knowing we can trust God (1 Timothy 6:6-10). 

It is always wise to obey God’s commands. We know evangelism is part of our call because of God’s Word. God has commanded us to evangelize based on what is known as the “Great Commission” (Matthew 28:19-20). It is important to note that while all believers should pursue the task, the path taken may vary depending on individual circumstances. Our approach should consider several situational dynamics, which are critical to conveying the core of our faith. For instance, it matters who we speak with, where we are located, and how to adapt the message best to communicate God’s Word. Aiming to do all this without watering down the message is vital to ensure we are compelling ambassadors (2 Corinthians 5:20).

We must exercise discretion and follow the lead of the Holy Spirit to be effective vessels equipped to answer the call God puts in our hearts. We don’t need all the answers before sharing the gospel. The key points of our faith are the ones we need to know how to communicate. We need to share such realities as:

• All human beings have a fallen nature (Romans 3:23). 
• Even one sin is significant enough to send us to hell if we do not come to saving faith (1 Corinthians 6:9-11; Romans 6:23).
• Jesus Christ died for our past, present, and future sins to offer us salvation (Romans 5:8).
• Salvation comes by grace alone, through faith alone, in Christ alone (Ephesians 2:8-10).
• Jesus Christ has justified us, or in other words, declared us as righteous upon our salvation (Romans 5:1).
• We can spend eternity with Him due to His love, provision, and sacrifice on our behalf (John 3:16).
• Our opportunity to reconcile to God the Father, despite our sins, is solely through Jesus Christ (1 Timothy 2:5-6).

These principles will help the recipient of the gospel message to realize that they are sinners in need of their Lord and Savior, just like we are (1 Corinthians 1:18). Empathizing and developing a sense of camaraderie with them can be a great starting point before delving into them. Learning about their viewpoints, cultures, and perspectives can go a long way. Connecting with them often makes these interactions more effective (1 Corinthians 9:19-23). 

Our approach may change as we gauge their receptiveness to the message. We must tread cautiously if they get defensive and unwilling to hear about the Bible. Some people could even react with hostility to listening to God’s Word. In those cases, we must give them space to reflect on what the Holy Spirit prompted us to tell them. The best we can do at that point is redirect the conversation to a neutral topic or walk away, depending on the circumstances, and pray for them. The blessing is that even in such cases, we can rest assured that we still did what God desired, and we may have had a more significant impact than we might imagine. There is no telling if they felt convicted about their sin. Perhaps God laid down the foundation for them to open their hearts to Him in the future through your boldness (Hebrews 4:12). 

Recall that you are a vessel for God and take satisfaction in accomplishing your responsibility in His eyes (2 Timothy 2:21). There is no need to concern yourself about the outcomes from your perspective. God already accounted for all of it. He can still utilize what you view as an unsuccessful attempt at evangelism for His glory. Think back to a current believer whom God transformed through unlikely measures. Perhaps that person was you. After you have given your best effort, surrender it to God and let go of worry. The key is that God’s Word does not return void, and we cannot imagine what God can do in any encounter (Isaiah 55:11; Ephesians 1:13). We cannot allow discouragement in these situations to steer us away from accomplishing God’s will.

Sharing God’s Word can take on many forms. You might be uncomfortable with preaching or teaching, but sharing the gospel can be done in various ways. You might see it fit to start by inviting people to your local Church or sharing literature (i.e., gospel tracts). Another possibility is to pursue evangelism online through written articles. Many find creative avenues to share, such as YouTube videos or social media. No matter what you do, do it unto God’s glory and find the approach that fits you best (1 Corinthians 10:31). 

God knows our hearts and capabilities. May we all glorify Him through evangelism efforts (2 Corinthians 4:7). It takes time and effort, but God saves people from an eternity in hell when we share His Word (2 Corinthians 3:4-5). That is a sobering reality that should always drive a sense of urgency in us to do so. Let us obey God’s call to arms and invite future brothers and sisters in Christ to join the fold alongside us. Imagine having a hand in helping someone avoid hell and spending eternity in Heaven with our Good Shephard (Jude 1:21-23; John 10:1-3)! May we be bold and unashamed to do so as the Holy Spirit leads us to.

In today’s video, we examine James 5:13-20. Let’s consider the power of prayer, faith, and confession in the life of a believer.

– How do faith and fervency impact our prayer life?

– When is it prudent to confess our sins, and to whom?

– Is there a place for helping our fellow believers to come back to the faith if they turn away?

What are some practical ideas that may help us do this effectively?

Let’s consider the answers to these questions and more! I hope you find it helpful!

It was 2006, and I began my post-high school track at the University of Miami. Early in my academic career, I strongly desired to excel. I had a rocky start to my first semester compared to the standards I had come to expect in high school. I was accustomed to achieving straight A’s. Going in, I assumed I could easily handle a six-class course load and stacked those classes to all be on Tuesdays and Thursdays, with only the sixth class being Wednesdays. The sixth course was a post-graduation preparation class that would prepare us for either law school or an MBA program. What could be better than a four-day weekend every week? 

I assumed it would be an excellent plan as it would enable me to continue participating in competitive PC gaming while providing additional free time to focus on studying. However, I needed to allot my time to better prioritize school work and study instead of structuring my time to make room for the games that interested me. Ultimately, this strategy resulted in a mix of A’s and B’s with a C+ in a Communications course I underestimated. These results fell short of my expectations but taught me a humbling lesson. I was confident I could redeem myself in the Spring of 2006 and made adjustments to make that a reality. 

Adjustments were needed!

It was clear that I would only turn things around if I studied more diligently and put in more effort starting the next semester. I decided to do five classes instead of six and begin a paid internship with OfficeMax, which an old friend connected me with. I felt fortunate as this was not the kind of opportunity a first-year student would often get. I also made the crucial adjustment to spread those five classes through Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. One upside of the internship was that I would allocate less free time to playing PC games, but there were a few downsides I did not foresee. The schedule would give little room for error. I was confident I could handle it at the time despite suspecting I might exert myself too much. I thought, “How hard would it be to put games on the back burner and pay more attention if need be?”

I hit the ground running that next semester and saw myself excel in all I was doing. The perfectionist inside of me was delighted with my performance. Within that first month or two of the semester, I got straight A’s and worked diligently to prove myself in my internship. I even made some time to play those coveted PC games and give lessons for money to augment my income. Some upper-level classmates and co-workers I occasionally encountered recognized my hard work through their affirmation and encouragement. I also noticed one of the young ladies in a class appeared enthusiastic about getting to know me. In my eyes, I was on top of the world in practically every area that seemed to matter.

I felt invincible, and my faith was the only aspect of my life I had allowed to become secondary. I did not slip away to the extent where I would call myself a prodigal or rebel, but I was not seeking God above the parameters for success the world offered. All these things I pursued were good. The mistake was not ensuring God was my top priority (Matthew 6:33). I was not attending Church or any Bible studies (Hebrews 10:25), although I still made it a point to talk to people about God on campus (Matthew 28:18-20). I also did so in the computer games I used to play. But the reality was apart from that, and perhaps some prayer time, my faith was not where it should be.

God corrects those He loves.

After those first couple of months or so, I was highly stressed out. It was a great time to quit the PC games, consider dropping one class, or even let go of the internship to salvage my work-life balance and mental health. Given my competitive nature, I did not find these solutions reasonable. I told myself I would power through anything and the stressors would subside in time (Proverbs 16:18). It got to a point where I did not sleep enough, and I became severely burnt out from over-extending myself. I did not recognize my limitations and remove something from my schedule. Instead, not long after, I put myself in a position where I needed to drop the entire load immediately. That is what I did, and not too long later, I realized I found myself immersed in a manic episode. I even had to be hospitalized, and my recovery was no walk in the park, to say the absolute least. 

Instead of having the humility and self-control to retire the PC games and sleep better, I had to let go of everything I was working for. I was not angry at God but was perplexed why He would allow me to suffer such a severe setback. I would face similar consequences for my mistakes again further down the road. My excessive ambition, competitive nature, and perfectionism led me to experience similar events thrice more during the following decade. It was challenging to realize that God gave me a loving and merciful detour because I was overly focused on what I had lost (Hebrews 12:11).

To this day, I can only speculate what God’s complete plan entails concerning these events. First and foremost, it made me realize that I should invest in eternity over the fleeting accomplishments and accolades this world offers (Ephesians 5:15-17). It also taught me I could not force or accomplish anything outside Him, allowing and empowering it. None of us can do anything of eternal value outside of Jesus Christ helping us to do so (John 15:4-8).

Instead of becoming a lawyer or climbing the ranks of a corporate ladder, God turned my focus back to Him. I discovered the value of being in His will, learned that God is to be loved and feared, and even found great satisfaction in serving Him through writing, among other pursuits (Ecclesiastes 12:13-14). God even blessed me with more time to spend with my mom and dad, who helped me in my darkest days and never gave up on my recovery despite how bleak things were.

I may not know every reason why God ordained what happened, but I could not be more thankful that it did. My relationship with Him is stronger than ever. I placed my career aspirations on indefinite hold due to the circumstances of what occurred, but I am all the more blessed for having grown closer to Him in that season. I will celebrate eight years since my last hospitalization in August of this year, and He has remained faithful to me. The trial was severe, but God never abandoned me or let me down in any way (James 1:2-4; Deuteronomy 31:6; Hebrews 13:5-6).

It can be quite painful or even excruciating at the moment, but God corrects those He loves (Hebrews 12:6-7). All the lessons God teaches you the hard way have their purpose (Romans 8:28). One of the best ways to approach this is to learn from the experience and mistakes of others. Exercising our humility and integrating valuable lessons into our lives is crucial. While this may not always be a luxury available to us, it should always be on our radar to consider the advice of the people that love us. It rings even more true when they have our best interests at heart and are qualified to offer the advice they give regarding the subject matter.

Final thoughts

Instead of finding your identity in your career, relationships, or other gauges of success, I suggest discovering it in God first (2 Corinthians 5:17). We can enjoy these avenues of human achievement in their time as God opens the door. But they should never be our most significant focus. If you find your identity in Jesus Christ, it cannot be taken away, stolen, or otherwise lost. Nothing can separate us from His love (Romans 8:35-39)! Take comfort in His presence today. We can find joy, satisfaction, and fulfillment in Him (Psalm 16:11). Everything He blesses us with in this life is the icing on the cake. The real blessing is having the chance to serve Him and spend eternity with God in Heaven. We should thank Him for everything from the little material blessings (i.e., a pen and paper) to the largest of spiritual ones (i.e., knowing Jesus Christ as Savior) and everything in between. May God empower us all to live for His glory without regrets and appreciate all those blessings we are given rather than focusing on what we may lack (1 Chronicles 16:29-30).