It’s vital to remember that our emotional control shouldn’t come at the expense of our general communication in relationships (Matthew 12:34). For example, imagine a husband and wife in a conversation about dinner plans. The wife suggests trying out a new restaurant. Still, the husband, who harbors a strong distaste for the cuisine, nods and maintains a stoic facade to avoid conflict (James 3:2). 

On the surface, the scenario depicted in the above example may help maintain a temporary sense of peace. However, his bottled-up feelings could eventually erupt like a dormant volcano, surprising both parties with the intensity of his unexpected frustration (Jeremiah 17:9).

The alternative is to express oneself with care, tact, and consideration to our family and friends. The Bible makes it clear that these dispositions are all components of a healthy approach. We cannot afford to shut down with the people we hold close; our goal should be to prioritize quality time and connection in our relationships to ensure they remain strong.

Our aim then becomes to successfully process our emotions while communicating in a way that is authentic to each situation. For instance, it’s better to have a few moments of discomfort in a marriage that operates within the reasonable framework of love and respect rather than sweep those situations under the rug (Ephesians 4:15-16). 

These moments of friction are minimized when one person takes the approach of expressing a specific need. They might say, “I need some time to unwind after work before we discuss plans,” or use a time-out signal during a heated discussion to prevent escalation. By implementing these behaviors, couples can more effectively manage disagreements and cultivate healthier communication in their relationships.

If we avoid expressing the full extent of our qualms to our partner to appease them, we may inadvertently set ourselves up for future conflict. What could have been a few minor skirmishes resolving key areas of contention can, when left unchecked, become an unnecessary and excessive burden. By recognizing this cycle, couples can take early action to communicate openly and empathetically, breaking the pattern before it becomes overly problematic.

Emotional consistency and composure in our relationships with friends and colleagues is also meaningful. It’s not that we want to hide things like who we are or what we feel. The issue is that when we shut down, we may expect people to read our minds or put up with our unreasonable behavior. Not letting our feelings dictate what we say and do allows us to think before we speak (Ephesians 4:29). We hold our tongues just long enough not to hurt someone’s feelings and instead deliver the same message with more care (James 1:19).

Have you ever spoken anything you’d like to rephrase? When was the last time you could have shared something with more tact and sensitivity? It’s often our closest loved ones that we have the least care for with our words. We grow so accustomed to their unconditional love and their willingness to forgive. Instead of taking them for granted, our desire should include a deliberate intention to communicate with abundant love and respect towards them.

We can consider this quick self-assessment to develop daily awareness of our interactions with loved ones:

– When I speak to loved ones, do I listen actively and without interrupting?

– Do I express my thoughts with kindness and patience?

– Have I acknowledged their feelings and shown empathy?

– Am I seeking to resolve conflicts rather than winning an argument?

Use these questions as a guide to ensure that your communications are both respectful and genuine.

The next time you catch yourself in a verbal joust with your spouse, parent, child, or sibling, try to remind yourself to exercise this type of care (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). Imagine a home where each moment is filled with grace and love for everyone. Picture interactions that breathe life and healing into the family unit (Proverbs 18:21). Envision kindness overflowing (Isaiah 54:7-8) and understanding reigning supreme in you and your most cherished loved ones (Ephesians 4:32).

After all, what sense does it make to treat strangers with greater consideration than those closest to us? The ideal is to operate with grace and love for everyone. Knowing that God calls us to love even our enemies, how is it that we don’t extend this to our closest family and friends (Matthew 5:44)?

I want to invite you to shoot for consistent love with those God has positioned around you (Matthew 22:36-40). Just because you have experienced their forgiveness and grace before doesn’t mean complacency is permissible (Romans 5:20-21, Romans 6:15). The way we esteem ourselves should inspire us to mirror that same consideration towards others (Romans 12:3, Philippians 2:3). God extends His love, forgiveness, mercy, and grace to us in abundance (Hebrews 4:16). That should, likewise, motivate us to take the same course of action with others. 

Next time you feel tempted to lash out at someone, take a step back. Instead of taking what they’re saying at face value, ask yourself why they think the way they do. Better yet, pray and seek God’s counsel on the matter. You may soon realize that their position is not as outlandish as it seems.

God even provides us with the tools to operate with restraint. The Fruit of the Spirit includes love, self-control, long-suffering, gentleness, kindness, goodness, joy, and peace (Galatians 5:22-23). All of these provide us with the fuel needed to exercise the emotional restraint that benefits everyone around us. 

For example, if we have self-control, we are equipped to respond to someone’s wrath with a soft answer and diffuse a situation (Proverbs 15:1). If we respond in kind, we would instead add fuel to the fire, which does neither them nor us any favors.

A marriage exemplifies both sides of the coin. The goal is complete honesty and sincerity, while also embracing the tension that sometimes comes along with the territory (Proverbs 27:17). Your spouse is an extension of you; in other words, you are one flesh (Mark 10:8). If you do them good, you are making a positive investment in your world too.

A good partner will mirror this behavior towards you as well, and you will feel compelled to keep this positive cycle going with one another for life. Create this dynamic, and observe how the fruit of your choices manifests itself in your relationship.

Exercising restraint with your tongues and ensuring your emotions don’t cloud your decision-making improve you as a unit (James 3:6). Their win is your win. Your win is their win (Ephesians 5:25-33). Meanwhile, if you fight to argue rather than to explore solutions, or if you fail to help each other cope effectively, you impede yourselves.

To translate this principle into daily life, consider implementing a small ritual that emphasizes the “their win is your win” perspective. A simple nightly check-in can serve this purpose, allowing both partners to share small victories, express gratitude, and offer support. This routine develops a tangible sense of unity and reciprocity, making it easier to maintain harmony in the relationship (Psalm 133:1).

Don’t let any of these goals and aspirations discourage you if you have a lot of work to do. I know that I definitely do. All of us have room for improvement, along with our unique strengths and weaknesses. Contemplate areas of growth within your grasp and begin with them. God willing, with time, you will find the strength to emulate Jesus Christ more fully in your emotional discipline (2 Corinthians 5:20, Proverbs 21:23).

For those times that we have fallen short, we must quickly seek God to confess our sins, ask for forgiveness, repent, and ask Him to cleanse us of all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). We can move forward with a clean slate when we do things God’s way. Instead of carrying around the burden of our past trespasses, we can walk in confidence that God does not hold condemnation against us (Romans 8:1). We may approach His throne boldly and recognize that by grace through faith in Jesus Christ, His Son, we have been counted righteous in His sight (Hebrews 4:16; Ephesians 2:8-9).

A key component of ensuring we keep God first revolves around avoiding idolatry (1 Corinthians 10:14). Idolatry can be deceptive because good things can become idols if we fail to approach them as God designed them. God blesses us with the chance to form deep connections with others that could potentially lead to marriage. However, we are not exercising wisdom if we prioritize these relationships over our devotion to God. Sex is also a blessing from God, but if we have it outside of His design in marriage, it is a sin and carries consequences with it (Hebrews 13:4). Thank God forgiveness is available to those of us who have fallen short in such areas. Still, our responsibility is to battle them and repent. These two blessings go hand-in-hand with God’s intentions for creation, and God designed them for us to enjoy in their proper place (Mark 10:7-8). The problem arises when we do not follow God’s guidance with the gifts He has given us.

When we think we are standing in victory from a disposition of self-righteousness and pride, we are also terribly mistaken (1 Corinthians 10:12). We all have different strengths and weaknesses. It would be imprudent of me to judge someone harshly because they struggle with a sin I find easy to abstain from. In our hearts, we must remember that there is always room for improvement in at least one if not many, areas of weakness. We should let that reality lead us not to think of ourselves more highly than we ought and esteem others more highly than ourselves whenever possible (Romans 12:3; Philippians 2:3). If not, our pride and self-righteousness may become serious precursors to significant falls (Proverbs 16:18-19).

Sometimes, even though we feel we are in good standing with God, we must ask God to examine and help us align our heart’s desires with His will (Proverbs 3:5-6). We may have a problem that may be hard to detect due to being desensitized to the gravity of the situation. Perhaps it stems from ignorance, habitual sin, or the long-term underestimation of a foothold that became a prominent issue or a stronghold. Thankfully, God can help us take thoughts captive and empower us to demolish strongholds we may have mistakenly allowed our adversary to develop (2 Corinthians 10:4-6). A combination of humility, self-awareness, and prayer can be the antidote we need to resolve these issues immediately. The sooner we cut a small sin off at its root, the better off we will be long-term, for it will not have the chance to grow (Matthew 5:29-30).

It is vital to pursue the well-being of our loved ones and help them when they are willing to consider our advice. Sometimes we can offer the truth in love to a fellow brother or sister in Christ (Ephesians 4:14-15). It can bring temporary discomfort or, in extreme cases, potentially cost us that relationship altogether. But they may need to hear what we say, which could become an eternal blessing (Galatians 6:1-3).

I only advocate that we do this with careful consideration of factors such as our proximity to them relationally, the timing of relevant circumstances, and their willingness to heed our advice in prior instances. Sometimes we must be willing to risk a friendship to offer them the direction they might not realize they desperately need. There are enough people out there that are willing to tell you what you desire to hear (2 Timothy 4:3-4). Good friends occasionally offer advice that challenges and steers us to consider our decision-making.

When you give this kind of advice, it is wise to pray beforehand and ensure it is with good intentions. Speak the truth with love and offer it gracefully in proportion to the topic’s sensitivity. Transparency with your difficulty in a similar area may help them understand they are not alone in their struggle (Matthew 7:1-5). They may not appreciate it now but will be grateful in the long run. If you receive such constructive criticism or judgment, try to exercise self-control and discernment (James 1:19-20). It may be difficult not to get defensive, but ask yourself if the person has your best interests at heart and is qualified to offer advice about the topic. You should take their advice with a grain of salt when one of these requirements is lacking. Seek God’s guidance above all in prayer to find confirmation before you make any sudden decisions.

Ultimately, we all need each other and God above all others. Do not hesitate to act if you are confident God is leading you to do so. But remember that God often aligns us with His will and speaks to us through the loved ones He surrounds us with. Keep in mind that God will never contradict His Word. Seek and obey Him above all others, but try to maintain the humility to recognize when you are given quality advice from someone perhaps older, wiser, or otherwise more experienced than you in certain areas. Their words may not be as gracious as you desire, but if acting on them would save you from a world of pain, they are crucial to consider.

Communities represent a group of people that have shared locations or common goals. All of us are hard-wired to foster these connections. God created us with an innate desire for social interaction (Genesis 2:18). The truth is no one is an island. Sooner or later, we all need to lean on our tribe. Investing in those people is essential for improving the community and ourselves. How can we otherwise receive and share God’s love (John 13:34-35)? 

Finding the proper balance of sowing and reaping is essential (Galatians 6:7-9). If all we do is give of our time, energy, and efforts, we eventually face burnout. No one can sustain that without finding nourishment in God and His people (Matthew 4:4). If all we do is receive from others, we will not discover the joy and satisfaction of sharing our gifts, talents, and resources (Acts 20:35). Your local Church is ideal for meeting with like-minded believers and experiencing this beautiful dynamic first-hand.

In God’s eyes, you bring something significant to the table. Share it with the world!

God designed us with unique gifts and talents (1 Corinthians 12:4-11). We all bring something to the table that God wants us to use to glorify Him (1 Corinthians 10:31). When we love, serve, and edify one another, we empower each other to do God’s work more effectively (1 Thessalonians 5:11; John 13:34-35). Doing this also positions us better to help those beyond our Church. 

For example, a Bible study group at Church may encourage us to reach out to a non-believer and share God’s Word (Mark 16:15). Alternatively, we may feel compelled by other believers to participate in a volunteer opportunity that feeds, clothes, and shelters, or provides supplies for the less fortunate (Matthew 25:40). Even if you were motivated to work on this task alone, it would be challenging to be as efficient or effective as a team unified to accomplish the same goal.

Our sanctification blossoms when fellowship opportunities abound!

Serving each other allows us to grow in Christ-likeness. We might acquire Biblical insight alone, but what good does it do if we don’t put it in motion? What good does it serve to capture knowledge without exercising the wisdom it should inspire? The Church opens the door for us to do so in various ways.

For instance, we might offer a loved one a listening ear and empathy for them to come to a sound conclusion (Proverbs 19:20-21). We can provide counsel that speaks to a situation they are going through (Proverbs 11:14). Your friend may be struggling with a challenge in their spiritual journey, relationship, career, or another area of life and could use your support in making a well-informed decision. Since we are outside the problem, our objective perspective often offers a worthwhile outlook. Having been on both sides of this equation, I can attest to the immense benefits of forming alliances with our Church family.

Encouraging forgiveness among church members is likewise crucial (Matthew 18:21-22). Churches must promote this value to strengthen relationships and foster community. The reality is our human nature leads even the best of us to fall short of God’s glory (Romans 3:23). No matter what congregation you visit. You will encounter imperfect people. Eventually, someone will let you down, and it is likely only a matter of time before you do the same. We can honor God by forgiving others as He forgives us (Matthew 6:14-15).

The self-awareness of knowing our flaws should provide ample motivation to forgive others. Sometimes it may be challenging and take a substantial amount of time to pardon an offense. But we should streamline this process because harboring unforgiveness, resentment, bitterness, or anger serves no one. An attitude like this hinders our progress and derails us from moving forward in peace (Romans 12:18).

In severe cases, it’s possible that forgiving someone is what God wants for you, but that doesn’t imply you should expose yourself to the same kind of hurt again. However, we should avoid cutting ties prematurely. All of us are susceptible to wronging others. One day it will be our turn to request a similar pardon for our mistakes. If God has forgiven the unforgivable in us, we need to demonstrate our love and patience in forgiving others (1 Peter 4:8, Mark 11:25).

Our success depends on mutual reliance.

Recognizing our weaknesses and exercising humility is essential to navigating life in God’s way (1 Peter 1:24-25). It is a difficult task for those who have yet to experience life’s most tremendous hardships. They might find themselves oblivious to our frailty until they must endure it first-hand. However, acknowledging that we need each other provides an antidote to our pride (James 4:6; Ecclesiastes 4:10). How else would we understand true resilience comes from God’s providence rather than human effort (Joshua 1:9)?

Understanding human fragility provides a compelling reason to comfort those undergoing extraordinary challenges. It also puts us in a position to accept prayer, help, and other support when needed. Whether God offers us support by supernatural means or through our community is His call. Either way, we should keep sight of the fact that He is sovereign, and we must submit to His will (Ephesians 1:11; Romans 12:2).

There is beauty in helping without keeping score.

We should refrain from offering our help with the expectation of anything in return. Exercising generosity for human recognition may detract from the eternal significance of what we do (Matthew 6:1-2). Avoiding expectation also absolves us from keeping tabs and developing a form of social obligation. Instead, we can offer support when it is within our power without further expectation (Luke 6:35-36). Trust God to surround you with help when you need it most (Psalm 46:1). Rest assured that God is more than capable of resolving all your problems (Psalm 50:14-15). Finally, we must be patient in our endurance (Hebrews 10:35-37).

There is no need to worry that He will not provide for your essentials when He even assures us the birds of the air get fed (Matthew 6:26-27). How much more will He help you? Remember, God created us in His image (Genesis 1:27)! Human beings are the crown jewel of His creation. So take comfort that you matter to God more than you can comprehend. Without Him, we cannot accomplish anything of eternal significance, but with Jesus Christ, we are more than conquerors ( John 15:55; Romans 8:31-37).

We must examine each avenue of digital opportunity from a Christian perspective and determine how to align them with our faith. When we seek God’s will above ours, it will help us find creative ways to serve Him with each future solution these tools provide (Proverbs 3:5–6). It is essential to make sure that our pursuits remain as faultless as possible and to use our time wisely for the glory of God (Ephesians 5:16-18).

For example, the internet can be an avenue for evangelism (Mark 16:15), apologetics (1 Peter 3:15), organizing volunteer opportunities and missions (1 Corinthians 9:19-23), or finding platforms that help us better understand God’s Word (2 Timothy 3:16-17). First, however, we must acknowledge that the internet also presents distractions, dangers, and temptations that may lead believers astray (Isaiah 53:6).

With such a wide range of potential use cases, we must wield discretion and wisdom to figure out when a specific situation is favorable or when we need to exercise caution (James 1:5). Above all else, we must learn to distinguish between unreasonable activities and sensible options. Of course, many undertakings are not explicitly evil in and of themselves. Still, if those endeavors risk becoming an idol or do not give us a good return on the time we invest into them, it benefits us to get rid of them (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Sometimes we have to say “no” to something good to say “yes” to something greater. (1 Corinthians 10:23-24).

Through social media, we can interact with a wide range of individuals, including family, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. However, it may also detract from pursuing a smaller quantity of higher-quality relationships in person. We may neglect face-to-face interactions with individuals right before us when immersed in it. Furthermore, many of us have caught ourselves looking at our phones and examining these connections while ignoring the loved ones we surround ourselves with. Instead, we must give those in person our undivided attention and deliberately avoid scrolling away aimlessly. Using social media is not intrinsically wrong, but as with many things in life, we must exercise careful moderation to maintain control.

Artificial intelligence presents its share of ethical dilemmas. The advent of recent technology in this domain has led leaders to warn us about their concerns. Over 1,000 tech leaders and researchers, including Elon Musk, have signed an open letter that urges a temporary halt to the ongoing and sophisticated advancements in the realm of A.I. (“Elon Musk and Others Call for Pause on A.I., Citing ‘Profound Risks to Society'”).

We must pay attention when advancement in any sector supersedes our ability to implement safety protocols and regulations. For instance, in the case of A.I., publicly available chatbots such as ChatGPT broke records for sign-ups after their inception. If these are freely accessible online, we can only imagine the power of more capable systems that have yet to be revealed. It is only natural to surmise that there must be real threats if some of the forerunners in the field are sounding alarm bells.

Christians should not fear such developments, but that does not mean we should advocate for ignorance (Isaiah 41:10). We know God is sovereign and in complete control, but trusting God and pursuing logical solutions are not mutually exclusive. Therefore, we should pursue boundaries, answers, and even fair-use cases to guarantee such tools serve rather than hinder us (Matthew 10:16).

For example, some of us may agree that a Pastor should not rely on ChatGPT to formulate a sermon because leaving that to a bot rather than God’s lead would be questionable. First, it may not fit his congregation’s unique needs, and more importantly, it might not be what God would inspire him to put together otherwise. So instead, I suggest avoiding substituting a bot’s insight for the Holy Spirit’s lead (John 14:26). 

Is it acceptable if someone is writing a Christian article and using a tool like ChatGPT to brainstorm potential topics and as a writing prompt? What about producing an outline for a specific subject to write about? It may be appropriate or even helpful to a point, but eventually, it becomes necessary to establish limitations depending on the use case. Using a chatbot to provide information without verifying its accuracy and alignment with Biblical principles can raise ethical and moral concerns.

The field is brand new and will undoubtedly become the topic of many upcoming conversations, in and out of the Church. Supporters of both sides may present compelling arguments, so we must prepare to tackle them. However, these innovations represent a small piece of the big picture in this field. As believers, we must navigate it all together (1 Corinthians 1:10). Part of that task will be determining what constitutes fair use and what amounts to abusing the technology.

What was once unimaginable just a decade or two ago has now become our everyday reality. Therefore, we must ask God for wisdom and discernment to determine a reasonable action for each issue. Part of that journey will include applying Biblical principles to the modern era, which is integral to our mission. It can be challenging to maintain compassion and empathy if we lack a clear understanding of the world we live in. While we do not want to completely immerse ourselves in the things of this world, to an extent, we must be aware of what is happening around us (John 15:19).

In the end, whether social media, A.I., or another avenue of technological advancement, we must prepare to evaluate what constitutes effectively using these systems to advance the Kingdom of God. Likewise, we will encounter grey areas and significant problems that God will help us avoid (Proverbs 16:9). Nevertheless, over time, God will give us the clarity we need to make prudent choices in light of His guidance in our lives (John 14:26).

One of the most significant blessings stemming from Christian hospitality is bridging gaps of understanding across racial, cultural, and socioeconomic divides. It allows us to share God’s love and connect with people we might not have encountered otherwise. There is no telling how offering a listening ear, sharing a meal, or offering a kind word could bless someone. Imagine the impact of these types of actions throughout a lifetime. Of course, not all of us can share this gift in the same manner, but perhaps we may feel compelled by God to do so uniquely. It is also possible to improve how we do so over time, which may drive some of us to practice taking such actions frequently. Inspiring other recipients in our path to pay it forward in their walk with God can yield eternal dividends (Matthew 25:35-40).

There is no better example of these actions than those found in our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Therefore, if we become more like Him in our sanctification, it would make sense to follow His example. For instance, he demonstrated the unfathomable humility of washing the feet of the disciples (John 13:4-15). The lowest servant in the household was typically responsible for such a duty, yet the God of the Universe willingly did this so that we would do the same for one another. He also cared for and healed the sick (Mark 1:40-45), welcomed and blessed the children (Matthew 19:13-15), reached out to societies outcasts (Luke 19:1-10), and spoke to a large crowd who He also fed instead of turning them away (Matthew 14:13-21). By any measure, Jesus Christ consistently demonstrated hospitality and His love through His actions. Therefore, we should follow His example and practice hospitality to the people we encounter.

Our motivation for every action we take is critical to take into account. Concerning Christian hospitality, we can find a sense of satisfaction intrinsic to such steps. After all, we know giving is a greater blessing than receiving (Acts 20:35). If we take action from a disposition of love, generosity, humility, and genuine desire to be a blessing to other people, we will find joy intrinsically and inextricably linked to the kind of actions we take. We recognize that God gave us all the strength, energy, resources, and capabilities required to provide a helping hand to those who need it. While we might be in a position to provide help now, there is no telling when we might be the ones who require assistance ourselves. Such a reality check affirms our vulnerability and humbles us to recall that we rely on God for everything. After all, all good and perfect gifts come from Him (James 1:17). Our ability to serve others is a privilege, not a burden.

It is vital to all of us that we do not over-extend ourselves and risk burning out in our service. We need self-awareness and discipline to take a step back when we require a proper dose of rest (Exodus 34:21). God encourages us to rest at least one day a week for a good reason. When we rest, we demonstrate our faith in God’s provision. Instead of trying to take everything into our hands, we surrender that control to God in faith (1 Peter 5:7). It is a blessing from God to enjoy these breaks because it is easy to get caught up in the race of our daily routines. We do not want to make productivity an idol, and we should learn to identify when to take a step back for prolonged rest as God calls us to do so. Consider how even small packets of rest in stillness build our trust in God. Take confidence that He is working things behind the scenes of our lives in our favor as He sees fit (Psalm 46:10). I recognize this is a challenging feat for those of us who have a strong work ethic and tend towards uncompromising diligence. Still, we would be foolish to neglect to embrace God’s gift (Galatians 6:9).

Ultimately it is a beautiful desire to do God’s work consistently. After all, our capacity to do so is directly enabled and directed by His providence. As long as we maintain a good balance between serving others and attending to our needs when appropriate, we will maximize our likelihood of succeeding. That way, we can demonstrate hospitality the way God intends. If you burn out from any excess, it is unhelpful to anyone, no matter how good your intentions may be.

We must recognize our limitations and remember that God supplies all our needs. I would suggest this is a skill for us to master because we live in a world that often promotes hustling and productivity to the extreme. Take care of yourself and open the door for your loved ones to offer a helping hand on occasion. There is no shame in it, and none of us is as invincible as we may think. These seasons take humility, but the better we get at correctly identifying these dynamics, the less frequently we will struggle to rest, recover, and return to effectively being God’s hands and feet (1 Corinthians 12:12-26). We all have different thresholds for this, so there is no one-size-fits-all answer, but I encourage you to learn your limits and draw boundaries to protect your well-being accordingly.

I pray that today’s article will compel you to demonstrate hospitality and seek God’s guidance on how He may desire you to do so. May God receive all the glory for all that we do. We are the salt of the earth and serve as a light in a dark world (Matthew 5:13-16). Let us not forget the urgency in pursuing God’s design for us in supporting one another in the process. None of us can ever go wrong by whole-heartedly, prayerfully, and humbly seeking God’s will. Keep fighting the good fight of faith and surrender to Him daily (1 Timothy 6:12). There is no better place to be than at the center of God’s will for you.

“19 For though I am free from all men, I have made myself a servant to all, that I might win the more; 20 and to the Jews I became as a Jew, that I might win Jews; to those who are under the law, as under the law, that I might win those who are under the law; 21 to those who are without law, as without law (not being without law toward God, but under law toward Christ), that I might win those who are without law; 22 to the weak I became as weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all men, that I might by all means save some. 23 Now this I do for the gospel’s sake, that I may be partaker of it with you.”

1 Corinthians 9:19-23 (NKJV)

In consideration of eternity, God will generously reward those who have the heart of a servant and, as a byproduct, often live for the well-being of others (Mark 9:35). Our key text in 1 Corinthians 9:19-23 reveals to us some strategic insight that would help us make this a reality. Instead of constantly figuring out how situations can play out to our advantage, we should consider how we can most effectively bless others. The text also reminds us how adaptable a servant of God can be, as long as they do not compromise their integrity. It is not typically something we gravitate to naturally, but rather, something we continuously rely on the Holy Spirit to facilitate. However, as with an exercise routine, an extended period of practice evangelizing the lost and discipling existing believers may inspire us to pursue it more diligently and frequently. In turn, this will undoubtedly win souls to Jesus Christ and yield eternal dividends in the process (Proverbs 11:30). God’s Word does not return void, whether in sharing it with others or applying it to our lives (Isaiah 55:11).

One critical thing to take hold of in our adaptability to others is to ensure we do not lose sight of our Biblical values. For instance, if you were to step out and evangelize in the public square for a long period without nourishing yourself mentally and spiritually with the Word of God, it is only a matter of time before you have a head-on collision with compromise. God designed us for fellowship with other believers for many reasons. One of the key reasons is that we are not invincible and highly susceptible to the world’s influence if we neglect the spiritual sustenance we all need. If unchecked, our integrity and core values will slowly erode (1 Corinthians 15:33).

Naturally, this calls for a balance of stepping out of our comfort zone to reach out to the lost while making sure we consistently go back to our Churches, fellowship, and Bible study for refreshment. Concerning discipling, mentoring, and setting an example for other Christians, we must also ensure that we are in a position to contribute. Finally, to serve effectively, we must rely on God to keep us in a healthy place in our walk to help others and avoid over-extending ourselves. It is reasonable to learn to say “no” when we know we need time or space to say “yes” to God-ordained opportunities. There is a reason why the second greatest commandment encourages us to “love our neighbors as ourselves” and not “love our neighbors more than ourselves.”

Once you are in a good place and your immediate loved ones are taken care of, you can step out to answer God’s call for your beloved neighbors. You and I would not be as effective for God’s Kingdom if we reach our tipping point for burnout. You will not be doing anyone any favors by trying to carry all the world’s burdens on your shoulders alone. Remember, God has called us to Christ-likeness in our sanctification journey, not to function as Jesus Christ. We are more than capable of making mistakes and letting each other down. Surrender your cares and anxieties to God (1 Peter 5:7). He will make it clear when it is your turn to step in and make the contributions He has placed in your heart to share with His people and the world at large.

In serving others, we should also be cautious not to get addicted to their approval. When we over-emphasize the well-being of others to our detriment, we can impose unnecessary hurdles upon ourselves. Do not let the applause or criticism of others carry more weight than it ought to. Indeed, we can all agree that certain loved ones in our lives can genuinely encourage or deter us immensely because of our relationship with them. However, ideally, this circle of trusted family and select friends must have merited that trust over a significant time. Otherwise, we risk allowing too many people undue influence on us. In short, nobody should be able to make or break us outside of God Himself ultimately.

If we are honest with ourselves, we can probably remember at least a couple of instances where we put our foot in our mouths as we perhaps unintentionally discouraged, angered, or offended someone we love. Therefore, while there is a time and place to offer constructive criticism, we must be careful with the delivery and cautious about providing it with truth in love (Ephesians 4:14-15). As such, seeking this balance and being particularly selective with offering unsolicited opinions is crucial to avoid unwarranted conflict.

Surely we must rely on God and give ourselves and others the grace needed to align ourselves with His will. May God bless us with the discernment and wisdom to strike the proper balance between adaptability and integrity, Kingdom building with acquisition of Biblical sustenance, and exercising caution in delivering and reacting to constructive criticism.